Crush. That’s a word I remember from way back in my elementary school days. “Juli and so-and-so sitting in a tree k-i-s-s-i-n-g…” Sound familiar? From the time we’re little, most of us develop a “crush” on someone who strikes our fancy. Thoughts of them continually fill our minds, notebooks and conversations with our friends. It can be fun and exciting, but it can also be agonizing at times. Thoughts like, “He loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, he loves me…not?”
Run through our minds. We go back and forth pondering the possibilities, mustering up the courage to say hello and we down right just obsessing over this person. Completely, totally, absolutely, without a doubt just plain CRUSHING from the time we wake up until we lay our heads down to “hopefully dream about so-and-so because then, maybe its like, a sign, and we’re going to totally get married, and have kids, and 3 dogs, and oh my gosh I hope my kids have blue eyes, and…” You get the picture. You’ve probably been there. CRUSHED. Breathe in and rest easy. You’re definitely not alone.
I don’t remember who the 1st guy I ever had a crush on was, but I do remember one in particular from my older years in high school. My friends all knew I was interested in him. His friends all knew. Before long, I found out that he was interested in me too, and we started talking for a while. I quickly developed this fear of becoming uninteresting to him, so I tried to be the kind of girl I THOUGHT he wanted. I started taking interests in the sports he liked (Me? Sports? Yeah. Right. C’mon!), the passions he had, places he liked to go, and even the (horrible, screeching) music he liked. I wanted to be everything I thought he would want me to be. Something funny happened when I started to do that, though. He immediately STOPPED being interested in me. Like, completely. Over it. Goodbye. It was fun while it lasted…I guess.
“Um…I’m confused here, crush. I’m exactly like you now. How could you NOT be interested in me anymore?”
It turns out that he wasn’t looking for a carbon copy of himself, he was looking for a WOMAN to adventure through life with. He didn’t need another buddy to hangout with, he just wanted a lady to take out. He didn’t want someone to he share an iTunes account with, he needed someone who walked to a tune that was all her own, a sweet sound he couldn’t hear anywhere else.
I learned a valuable lesson from that time I was crush-ed. I learned that it’s always okay to be 100% me. Always. The most impressive quality any of us can have is the ability to be ourselves in a world that is constantly telling us how to look, what to buy and ultimately, who to be. I also learned that just because you make someone everything to you, doesn’t necessarily mean they won’t treat you as if you’re nothing to them. It happens. A lot. The only One who deserves to be everything to you, and frankly, can even HANDLE being everything to you is God. He tells you your beautiful, is always willing to listen and allows you to come meet him as you are – not as everyone else thinks you should be.
I’m not here to tell you that it’s wrong to have a crush. It’s not. It’s natural, it’s normal, it’s going to happen. I am here to remind you to keep God first, be true to yourself and find someone who does that, too. Set your focus on Christ, aim to do HIS will and enjoy all of the wonderful blessings He pours into your life.
Love and hugs,
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