Where my single ladies at? Let’s face it…dating can be tough. One minute it’s fun and exciting, and the next it can be totally confusing and heartbreaking. What happened to that sweet guy who picked you up for that first date with roses, and why hasn’t he asked you out for date number two?
Have the romantic texts and calls stopped? Suddenly feel unimportant, unnoticed and unworthy of love? Here are 5 reasons he’s may not be the guy for you.
1. He Never Initiates The Conversation First.
Do you find yourself staring at your phone all day, waiting for it to light up with a romantic message from Mr. Wonderful? Tick-tock, tick-tock. You promise yourself, “I’m not gonna text him first. I’m not gonna text him first…” But then, it happens. You justify. You create scenarios like, “Maybe he’s still sleeping and I could send him a sweet good morning message.” or “Maybe he’s into a girl who knows how to play it forward..you know, one who will show him he’s on her mind.”
Girlfriend. Please…Hear me out. If he never contacts you except with a short reply to a message you sent first – He’s not the one for you. If a dude is into you, he’s going to let you and everyone else know it. He’ll want to talk to you. He’ll try his hardest to make you notice him. He’ll be sure that no one else is making a move on you. Trust me here, ladies. He’s not worth the time or the heartache.
2. He Only Talks To You In Secret
Woah girl, things seem to be going so great! You’ve met this amazing guy who seems to totally get you. Both of you have the same interests, the same taste in music and you even share a love for cheesy reality tv shows. Wow! It’s like, so meant to be. There’s just one catch..he doesn’t want anyone to know you two are talking.
Ever hear a phrase like one of these?
“I really like you, I’m just not ready to make it official or anything. Do you mind not telling anyone for a while?”
“You’re really great, but I’m still getting over a past relationship and I don’t want anyone to think I’m just jumping around from girl to girl or anything. We can still talk and act like we’re together, just don’t let anyone know. Okay?”
Lady. Please. Listen to my plea.. RUN AWAY FROM THIS DUDE! I mean Forest Gump style. Don’t even take time to look back. A relationship isn’t a game of hide and seek. If you’re seeking him and all he’s trying to do is hide you, he’s most certainly not the guy for you.
3. You Can’t Bring Him Home To Daddy
Look, I get it. You find something intriguing about a guy who lives his life on the edge. He’s a perfect mix of Ryan Gosling and John Mayer – a little bit cocky, a little bit sweet. Handsome, but a little rough around the edges. He had you at “Hey Girl.” You know he isn’t the best guy on the block, and you definitely don’t want your parents or friends to find out you’re with him. If you find yourself constantly hiding texts, untagging yourself in pictures or lying about him to the people you’re closest to, he’s definitely not the one for you.
4 .He’s Constantly Pressuring You
Are you with a guy who is continually trying to persuade you to do something you’re not comfortable doing? Are you bombarded with texts and conversations that always begin or end with, “If you really loved me, you’d do insert word here with/for me.”? If all he wants from you is sex, he’s not the one for you. A real man will help you stand for your convictions – he won’t try to sway you from them. If all he wants is what you can give, it’s time for you to move on and cut him loose.
5 . You’re Never Enough For Him
Are you with a guy who demands perfection? He’s constantly bashing the way you dress, pressuring you to be sexier or skinnier? Does he make fun of you in front of other people? Does he call you rude and degrading names? He’s NOT the one for you. If a man doesn’t realize how beautiful, smart, talented and lovely you are, he doesn’t deserve your time. Never settle for someone who is chasing after a magazine cover. He’ll never be satisfied and you’ll never be treated like the priceless jewel you truly are. Stand up for yourself and kick him to the curb.
If you’re struggling in your dating life right now, I truly hope that one or more of these things can help give you some clarity. Never forget – you are beautiful. You are enough. You are worthy of love. Don’t settle!
Love and Hugs,