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You Don’t Have To Apologize For Being A Woman

This is a letter of encouragement to you, whoever you are, to let you know that you’re not alone. To let you know that you’re not the only woman wondering if she is enough. Us gals have a ton of pressure on us to be everything to everyone, don’t we?

We’re supposed to be the beauty, the brain, the straight A student, the soccer mom, the “girl boss”, the trophy wife, the taxi driver, the chef, the maid, the non-clingy-yet-super-hot-funny-talented girlfriend. The list just goes on and on. We’re supposed to have it all, tied up neatly in a size zero package with a perfectly manicured head of hair on top. At least, that’s what society tells us anyways. That’s what our insecurities tell us.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve bought into that lie way too many times in my life. The one that says I’m not “woman” enough if I can’t do it all. That I’m not worthy of love if I do or don’t look a certain way. That I’m not good enough. Surely I’m not the only one who has been out to lunch with a girlfriend and overheard her say,  “Goodness, I really shouldn’t have dessert, but it’s okay. I worked out today. I deserve it.” And I’d be telling a flat out lie if I told you I’ve never said a similar phrase myself. Why do we feel the need to earn something as silly as a cookie?

Is it because we’re told women are supposed to run on kale and yoga and that anything other than that is classified as a failure? As disgusting? I’m not knocking healthy living. You’ll find me with baby carrots in hand 80% of the day because they are so dang good. I’m just saying, it’s time for us to ALLOW ourselves to be human. To be women. To live.

I don’t measure beauty the way society does, and I know God doesn’t either. He doesn’t categorize our worth by the size of our jeans. Whether you’re a size two or a size twelve, you are beautiful. You are capible of big things. You deserve to be loved. To be cherished. To be appreciated. And no, I don’t just mean by other people, but by YOURSELF as well. Be proud of who you are. Own it. Appreciate every little detail of who you were created to be. Your smile. Your heart. Your passions. These things can change the world, and that’s such a big deal. Much bigger than a number on a scale or the stretch marks on your belly. I’ve got some of those too, mamas, and I’m begging you to own those suckers. You earned them. You were a vessel used to create life. If that’s not beautiful, I don’t know what is.

So, here’s to you, pretty woman. Stop apologizing for being a woman. For having curves. For having goals. For having flaws. Embrace who God created you to be. Remember that you’re value doesn’t change based on appearance, relationship status’ or followers on social media. Your value is signed, sealed and delivered in a book that has the power to transform your life, to transform the way you view yourself.

“I  praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”—Psalm 139:14

You are a work of art. You are a woman. You don’t have to apologize for that.


—Juli Wilson


What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below.

Julianne Wilson

Striving to make the world a little brighter.

  • Alannah

    Love it! Thank you for sharing your heart. I feel like so many times – whether verbally or not – I apologize for being who I am. I do this every day by how I view myself: my self-identity. I think if we stopped apologizing for being the unique creation of God, maybe we could then truly walk in confidence in who we are. Good word, Juli!

    December 2, 2015 at 11:54 am Reply
  • Aida

    I plan to forward this to all the amazing women I know…and print it out for myself for those days that I am guilty of judging myself ‘not enough.’

    December 2, 2015 at 3:44 pm Reply
  • anonymous

    Thank you so much Julie! This really touched my heart. I needed this today.

    December 2, 2015 at 5:20 pm Reply
  • Lana Sydenstricker

    Just really have a hard time believing this about myself!! So good and very much needed words to hear!!

    December 2, 2015 at 6:49 pm Reply
  • Babs

    So glad u shared, I thank God that I now rely on the bible description of me. I don have to be enough coz He is more than enough. I was put here for a purpose – not some ornament to be stared upon. I choose to be healthy bcoz I need to accomplish that purpose. In God’s eyes we r enough – evryone else mst take a hike

    December 4, 2015 at 3:23 am Reply
  • Sara

    I have A friend that posted one piece of your blogg. And I read it, loved it and wrote some music of it. Just wondering if that is ok with you? /Sara
    You can email me at:

    December 16, 2015 at 12:16 am Reply
    • Sara

      Thank you! Lovely! I will recording it in my phone and send it to you later.

      December 17, 2015 at 12:04 am Reply
    • Sara

      It’s done!

      December 17, 2015 at 12:13 am Reply
  • Julia

    Thank you for this reminder! Really encouraged me to see my beauty
    again. Your words are a gift!

    January 24, 2016 at 1:53 am Reply

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